Tuesday, June 3, 2008

The evolution of Christopher


Lately we've been focusing our end of year studies with Christopher. Believe it or not, he will be graduating this month and moving on to the "real world". :) Monday he begins his full time apprenticeship program with his Grandfather in the family business. This is the real training he needs.

Christopher is a wonderful, intelligent, and capable child who was shoved aside by the public school system. He was labeled unteachable. They thought it best to end his "lessons" on writing and instead decided to issue him a scribe to write for him. They stopped their ineffective methods of "teaching" him to spell and instead taught him to use spell check. They stopped "teaching" him math and handed him a calculator. (This isn't rare.) They told him he was "slow", that he had mental issues. They gave him "his kind of work" which equalled nothing short of teaching cheating. They kept passing him along in grade levels, saying he doesn't need to be "at level". Gone was the goal of him graduating. They had the goal of a certificate of attendance in mind for him.

They gave up.

This led to one unhappy, and often ridiculed, child. What happens once you tell someone they must keep going in the silly system, but are incapable of doing so? What happens once you point out how behind the student is to the other students? What happens when the teacher joins in on the ridicule? (And his case is not all that rare.)


That's what I was handed at the beginning of this school year. Christopher came to me as an angry, sullen, and defeated child. But, that's not the Christopher you will meet today.

Today you will meet a fine young man who sees things the way they really are. Gone is the boy who once punched a teacher for standing in front of the class and ridiculing him. Gone is the defeated young man who was quite depressed about his prospects in life. Gone is the boy who believes their lies.

Today you will meet a boy who proved he can learn and that they were wrong.

7 comments:

  1. Wow - I'm so sorry that your son went through that. How fortunate that he has a mom and family who are so supportive of him and believe in him, even when the so called "experts" (as many people think teachers are) think otherwise.

    My son's short-lived experience in public school was kind of similar, and although it was hell to live through at the time, it's what sent us to homeschooling, which we absolutely love.

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  2. Ah, Sheri, I know when I first met you, there was some mention of difficulties, but I didn't really meet Christopher then. Since then, I've met him several times and I have to say, he's such a sweet kid.

    I'm SOOO glad he found out, before it was too late, that he is not what they were trying to make him.

    Kudos to Christopher!

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  3. Oh, your post brings tears to my eyes.

    You should be so proud of yourself and Christopher. I know I am! It just warms my heart to see what simple love and attention can do for a child.

    Good for you mom! And CONGRATULATIONS Christopher!

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  4. Thank you all for your kind words. I really am proud of my son and all the work he has accomplished this year. He's worked hard.

    Speaking of which, we need to plan a graduation ceremony! I've got to get crackin' on that. :)

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  5. What a touching story. He is one lucky kiddo to have you for a mom.
    You are right - your story isn't rare at all.
    I've seen kids with problems provoked - goated into a fit of rage. I see the humiliation and the low expectancy. You are exactly right when you say they quit teaching him and they only help him do enough to get by and spin their numbers.
    Kids with so much potential are written off and labeled usually by 1st grade. The kids who need the most help are failed the most.

    Congratulations to you Christopher! (even though I don't know you ;-) You probably won't realize what an accomplishment this is until you are older. You guys refused to accept the fate the public school surmised. You beat the odds and you all should be proud.

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  6. Sheri,

    You really need to put a recent photo of Christopher along side of the older one (maybe we could see his smile now). I think the transformation in him has been drastic and obvious to everyone around him.

    You and your boys are an inspiration to me. Every time I want to stress out about the myriad of homeschooling issues we all face, I think of how Christopher's head slowly came up week after week, and how quickly he has gone from sullen teenager to confident, articulate young man.

    My one primary goal in life is to make sure my daughter keeps her head up, too.

    Michelle

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